A marriage therapist and pastoral counselor explains that most of the feelings of receiving inadequate love that couples experience come from unresolved childhood conflicts and describes how adults can learn to flourish as loving and loved people.

The bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, in an all new production of the revised and updated text--on CD for the first time
In Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix presents the relationship skills that have already helped hundreds of thousands of couples to replace confrontation and criticism with a healing process of mutual growth and support. This extraordinarily practical guide describes the revolutionary technique of IMAGO Relationship Therapy, which combines a number of disciplines--including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, among others--to create a program to resolve conflict and renew communication and passion.
Dr. Hendrix describes the three stages of intimate relationships, provides illustrative case studies and gives recommendations to help couples create a stronger bond between them. Step by step, he offers advice on how to communicate with greater accuracy and sensitivity, how to let go of self-defeating behaviors, and how to focus energy on meeting each partner's needs.
With Getting the Love You Want, couples in any stage of a relationship can resolve their conflicts and achieve mutual emotional satisfaction.

I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship. --M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled Getting the Love You Want is a remarkable book--the most incisive and persuasive I have ever read on the knotty problems of marriage relationships. --Ann Roberts, Former President, Rockefeller Family Fund Harville Hendrix offers the best program I've seen for using the love/hate energy in marriage to help a couple heal one another and to become whole together. --T. George Harris, Editor-in-Chief, American Health magazine This book will help any couple find the love they want hidden under all the concealing confusion of a close and intimate relationship. I have seen these principles in application and they work! --James A. Hall, M.D.